幸福

听完一位不久前认识的朋友述说他的心路历程，再一次领悟所谓的“人不可貌相”。

所认识的朋友当中，他是唯一一个，让我不得不敬佩。跟他的外表相比，故事中的人物，也许只相是电影中一个悲惨的角色。而现实中的他，却让人误以为是那种不经一事的大少爷。

我出身不算大富人家，但爸爸妈妈也不曾让我挨饿。念书的时候，我也曾打工。但赚来的钱，都是用来旅行或满足自己的物质欲望。从来没有真正受过苦的我，原来已经是那么幸福。

很难想象八十年代的马来西亚，还有处于贫穷水平以下的华人人家。他所谓的贫穷，是家里没有钱开饭，甚至要向别人借米糊口。很小的时候开始，他便一家一户去卖椰浆饭，派报纸，以赚钱养家和交学费。中学的时候更几乎因无法维持生活而休学。幸好一直撑了过去，中学毕业后领了奖学金，买了一张从东马来的机票，从此开始了一个人离家奋斗的另一个里程。

之后，当然少不了丰富的打工经验。平时到酒楼去当伺应，周某又到云顶去打工。一分一秒都不能浪费。就这样书念完了，可以打工养活自己。 当然从来没有停止帮补家里的开销。只要有能力，他就会回馈社会，回到以前的乡村去帮助那些平穷的孩子，希望他们也能有机会念书，以脱离平穷。

如今别人看到的他，厢车宾影，的却无法将他与贫穷撤在一起。但我相信他的信念：只要有机会帮助别人，无论是什么时候，我们都应该义无反顾，不需要计较回报。有舍就有得。

听完他的故事，真的由衷感谢上天赐予的种种。 我身体健康，有一份还算可以养活自己的工作，有爱我的家人和可以让我需要时抱头痛哭的朋友。虽然没有要风得风，要雨得雨，但总算幸运的拥有不少。

所以，记得在别人让你难堪时提醒自己：“看开点”。

我有 Hilton! 我是幸福的！

一辈子

另一个无风的夜晚，外面的街静了，心里却开始吵了。

你说我是个会让你一辈子忘不了的人，一辈子都会记得我。
很熟悉，好像有人曾经对我那么说。
对，很久以前，他也那么说。

我怎么知道, 我会不会在另一个转弯角被遗忘？
也许我也会一辈子不把你从记忆里擦掉。谁晓得？

看来，又是一个漫长的夜。。。

Bitch

You are the most unique human being I have met in my life so far. I am really salude the education you have gotten from your school and family, the confidence level that rise you up to the sky. Oh no, is above the sky.

You always point your finger to others and never look at yourself. Should you ever make a mistake? But all your mistakes have became others mistakes because you never want to look bad infront of anyone.

You always has the worst memory when you are telling the different things before and after. When others tell you that you actually said something else before, you are not going to admit it, and of course, everyone else has 'heard' the wrong thing. Do we?

You think you are the queen of the empire and expects everyone to salude you while you have never respect people in the first place. You think all other human being who is lower grade than you in the company are your slave. You instruct people to make you coffee, to bring you food,...
You love the feeling of people polishing your shoes and clap when you are praising yourself. You think you are the queen who can order everything and never be wrong. But when things go wrong, you would look at them and said :"I WALL-UP you!" Can anyone tells me what is that mean in fact? My English is too poor to even know how to write it correctly.

You think the queen, yourself is the best in whatever you do. So, when people tell something that you don't know what the heck is it, you would feel insulted and said:"I knew it, you dont have to tell me what to do."

You the queen of yourself always criticise others language ability. You think Australian English is the best. The British and American are not to your par. Oh God if in this world someone thinks so narrowly about this, I think that person, like you, should go around the world to see more of what you dont know.

You bitch is always knee down to the people of higher ranking and step down people who is lower ranking, oh to be exact, you even step down people who is in your same ranking, to bring up yourself.

Oh, you queen of yourself, do you ever think you are normal? You always say you are so unique and different from others. You think you think differently because how different you are. You think all others surround you are the norm and you are not. Oh please tell me what do you consider is norm and what is not.

You assume what you think is 100% correct. You assume you know in and out of everyone. You assume you can read the mind of others and judge the, as you perceive. You like the people who similar to you, Oh thanks God that I am not your favorite. I would rather hit to the wall and die if I have 1/100 similarity with you.

But thanks God that let me have this opportunity to come across with you. One thing that is not doubted - You are interesting. Interesting enough to let me open my eye and know that there's such a creature in this world.

Thanks God that I have granted with this opportunity to remind myself to speak sweetness to people and do not ever to be like you.

Bad Day

Where is the moment we needed the most
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
You tell me your blue skies fade to grey
You tell me your passion's gone away
And I don't need no carryin' on
You stand in the line just to hit a new low
You're faking a smile with the coffee to go
You tell me your life's been way off line
You're falling to pieces everytime
And I don't need no carryin' on
Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day
You had a bad day
Well you need a blue sky holiday
The point is they laugh at what you say
And I don't need no carryin' on
You had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day
(Oh.. Holiday..)
Sometimes the system goes on the blink
And the whole thing turns out wrong
You might not make it back and you know
That you could be well oh that strong
And I'm not wrong (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeeeah)
So where is the passion when you need it the most
Oh you and I
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
You've seen what you like
And how does it feel for one more time
You had a bad day
You had a bad day
(Oh, yeah, yeaaah, yeah)
Had a bad day
(Oh, had a bad day)
Had a bad day
(Oh, yeah, yeah, yeeeeah)
Had a bad day
(Oh, had a bad day)
Had a bad day...
Had a bad day...

The BAR at the LUNA

Another cool place in KL- Luna Bar @ Pan Global Hotel. It's right next to the KL Tower.

After visited the Sky Bar, comparing with this one here, I think I like it here more. It's very comfortable mainly because of the bigger space allow for me to move around. You don't have to be afraid of falling off from the deck/ walkway. The pool is nice! I wanted to dip in so bad! The sofas seat on bothe sides are open to the half windows. There's open air above the pool so the vandilation is good and fresh air after rain even cooler!

I like the bar counter where they have a very nice backwall shelfs to display the alcohol bottles. And the upper level are good for groups or couples hang out too.

From the upper level, you can see half of the KLCC side view. Not as amazing compare with Sky Bar but looking at the pool and the poolside within the bar, it already worth the value.

Yeah I know I mentioned about KL Towel. It's not so amazing though but it's one of the selling point they have been shouted. It's here right behind the Bar.

Ray was supposed to demostrate to us how to make new friends but he 'suk sa'. Chech!

Tips: You may go there earlier around 7 ++ to take some nice pictures of KL skyline before dusk and get a good seat where you like. But if you are hoping to see people, you may want to wait till around 11pm. The crowds started to flow in and most of them are white/ caucasians.

A Bar at the SKY

I am going to show you a cool place where I've been weeks ago.

KLCC?? Nah.. It's a view from this cool place called SKY BAR located at the 53th floor of Traders Hotel in KL. You can see the full view of KLCC Petronas Twin Tower, even its outdoor garden from the window of the bar. KLCC at twilight is gorgeous from this angle.

Pictures are taken by my friends' camera phone so the resolution got to be tolerence a bit and too bad it couldn't capture the full view including the gardens with fountains and lights!

The interior is cool!

The operator uses mirrors to make an illusion of spaciousness.

Yeah I know, the clarity is bad. There's a pool in the middle, and sofas seat are set at both sides. There's a very narrow wooden deck built as a walkway on the right. Be cautious after a few drinks, you may fall off into the pool. We were trying to imagine what we should do if we fell. Perhaps a sexy post of swinging my hair when I rise from under the water? Hahaha

Well, we sat at the right end where you can't see from this picture, near to the bar counter.

Here we are at the lobby after get drunk. Oh they get drunk, I don't drink. And there's a dude taken this picture for us was paying the bill. Thanks him!

Power of +' Talk

A good article to share today -

" I remember my dad teachin me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did… fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.
If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.
My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children."

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.
Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want.

This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"
Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"
Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.